Monday, September 28, 2009

163. When your best friend................?


Ahem,Ahem! my past few weeks have been a total disaster.Too much of Mafia wars and FarmVille is harmful.I have many tasks  for the upcoming weeks.Firstly,I have to meet my blogger friends in Mumbai.Have promised few of them that we would meet this weekend.Just waiting for Pri to come and we have to do the planning thing.I've also promised my close pal that I would write his story  soon. Being a Vela isn't a big thing but its strange that you are sitting at  home and don't make much of it.Well I am an exception.Aww! Exception reminds me of my Java course and this reminds me of my Tests.Gosh!just look at me,what am I supposed to do now? Any way lets  have a serious discussion.Lets talk about best friends.Man is a social animal.Agreed??? Well I agree as I had to speak on this topic at some point of time in my life.He has many friends.He meets many people during his life time.Some of them who  induce drastic changes in their life and few of them who were known for their kind deeds.Out of those there is some one with whom we share all our secrets and close things.Yes its not our family members  or any peers.It is our best friend.Lets talk about different things about the same.
Last night I was chatting with my very good blogger friend.E2 had  asked me to read her blog post. I read and  found it amusing(but sad).It was a total tragedy ,a dilemma to be honest.I just felt that it would be embarrassing for her.How on Earth would  your best friend  fall in love  you?. Oops! yes there are many exceptions.But being so close and you carry this tag of being best friends and even then you have these much feelings for someone who understands and treats you as a best friend. Well this isn't funny. Lets highlight few points  in this space.

1.When your best friend falls in love with you?
   I am always known as a humour writer who then changed to fiction.This so called solitary fiction writer started writing  Romantic stories. These romantic stories later on instigated him to write Love and Relationship posts.This is what the Solitary writer is trying to do.Any way coming to the topic.Do you have any best friends?  Silly Solly...I guess everyone must be having one.Before that let us explain what best friend means.My Nokia N70 dictionary defines "Best friends" as the one who is closest to you.Oye! this  constitutes only  10% definition of best friend.A best friend is one who is close to you, he/she is the one who understands you,he/she is the person who cares for you. They think of your betterment.They are the one who  don't expect any thing  not even a favour for your kind deeds.They support us and provide solace when we were upset and feeling low.In short a best friend is a secret holder.They are the one who  have immense trust on you and you have the same opinion of them.In such a case if a  best friend falls in love with you ,then there is something which  should be taken care of.
After being best friends for so long and one day your best friend proposes you. Well  people would love to refrain from such situations.Would there be a scenario when both the friends would love to extend the relationship one step ahead.If  there is a yes from both the sides,then its a bliss else its fine .No worries,we are  going to talk about such things.
Firstly give some time.Think for a while.Think about the good times you had with the person. Think about those beautiful tours ,outings and picnics you went with your gang especially with your best friends. Reminisce those days when you fought with your bestie like mad and crazy. Well if you call him/her as your best friend then you would think.Don't lose your temper.I know being best friends we always played prank on each others,we love pulling their legs in front of others and so on.
Secondly communication may prove to be effective.Just walk to him/her and tell what you feel for him.Let him/her know whats running through your mind.Let them think too.If nothing works then let them know about your goals in life, career prospectives etc.Its all in your hand.But do take care that your friend is not hurt.This is a very delicate and sensitive topic.But let me tell you that there is a big difference between best friends and relationship partners.Falling in love with some one is too easy ,but falling for your best   friend is something strange.Just tell that  you don't love him/her or you do love him/her.It happens but Solitary writer never came through such things before.  Your best friend see's you as some one special and yes you may not want to lose them at any circumstances.  This loss would prove to be a big one.Just try to be the same best friend whatever be the case for  best friends know each other very well.All's well that ends well.

2.When your Best friend falls in love with your girlfriend/boyfriend? 



May sound funny ,but its not funny.Trust me it happens quite often.Solitary writer once had a crush on his best friends girl friend when he was in class 11.But then he was too young, so one  can't blame Solly for the kid within him.Instead you should blame the hormones if you are planning to blame one. .Well what happens when your best friend falls in love with your gf/bf? .Nightmare!! no no its not  a nightmare.But I would like to say the same thing.Go talk to your best friend.Explain him/her the importance of "your" gf/bf in your life. If he/she is your best friend then they would surely pay heed to your words.And another advice for  best friends.Wait and watch method works well at times.If your best friend breaks off with his girlfriend/boyfriend then  its time for you.Not at all gross, but this is my idea.It works at times and that's why I am telling you.My next story is based on the same.Ahem Ahem!!

3.When your Best friend hurts you?


"Hurt  never Smile ever" is not followed by everyone.So as its not even followed in friendship. At times your best friend may hurt you.They may try to do a Hitler act by annoying you and troubling  you by saying words which  hurt you.Trust me it is painful when you hurt your best friend.I know it because I have always  made my best friend cry.I mean not always but at times.I still remember the day when I fought with my best friend.She was sounding sad and upset.Other day when I spoke to her I learnt that she had cried the whole day for a single issue.I soon apologised and  tried to make her happy.But Solitary writer is a big expert in this context of making people cry and sad.When your best friend is upset because of you then go to her/him. Try to be casual,crack few jokes.Hunt for opportunities which would bring a smile in their face. If she is still angry with you then pull their cheeks and say "Arey Bachho jaise ro rahi/raha hai yar tuu" .
Dear friends ,friendship is one of the most priced possesion/gifts in the world.A friend is our alter ego.Its the most pure relationship in the world.They sow the seeds of happiness and you derive more happiness as you reap it. Just be good to friends.Don't lose your friends even if they love or hurt you.Yeh not to forget ...just give them a kick  when he/she has an eye on your girl/guy. Kidding!! Any way next posts would be a Sister Management post for all those naughty bratty brothers who fight with their sisters or vice versa

44 comments:

  1. Haha...a nice post dedicated to friendship!
    The last point is quite useful though!

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  2. Hehehe..
    Nice post :)
    Yes Friendship is the most beautiful relation in the world :)


    Takecare
    Keep Smiling :)

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  3. All three situations you mentioned are quite natural and practical.... though first one is most difficult to handle and third one happens too often though the second one is still very rare....
    Falling in love with best friend is no bad but then it helps only when both feels the same otherwise thats the beginning of an end... friendship suffer in either cases whether the other person fall in love or not...:) :)

    Interesting post!!! It gave me new ideas to write a new one ;):)

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  4. Loved the 2nd situation bro. Best friend falls in luv with the gf...
    but seriously "wait n watch method"... that oughta ruin the friendship for good... lols. u break up with a gal n ur best friend goes out with her... The dude wud be devastated !!!

    P.S.- when did solli became the relationship master?? :P

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  5. hey steph.. lovely post!! "Solitary writer is a big expert in this context of making people cry and sad" and this is true!! you are too honest bout yourself!!
    keep posting stuffs like this!!

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  6. dude Ste... :D

    ur like Dr.BestFriend dude! what a post on friendship.. very nice thoughts!

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  7. :D
    lol u r really a magician...showing magic by words...nice post :)

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  8. first of all congo to yew for such a great post and lifing up such weighed issues!I also suggested something like this to miss "E".But the magic that u create through world is just more than magic!
    btw I never fall in love with my best frns gf.haha......i always love to treate them as my bhabi maa..:).....pata ni kyuun bt main aisa hi huun!!!

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  9. ste i love u...lolzz...loved the post...i must say u create magic with words...u kept me mesmerized with them...wow..

    n i am desperately waiting for the sister manangement post...i love fighting wid my brother and vice versa too...so me waiting... :P :D jaldi jaldi

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  10. ..nice write Ste...frndship n lov are bst bst things of life..!!!!..n whn dyboth meet at d same path thn dere r many complications....!!!!....good one..

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  11. The last point is good... :) I guess the first 2 points are useful for some people older than me... they are not really useful for 12-yr-olds :P :)

    Btw this is roshwrites http://roshwritesx.blogspot.com

    (Signed in with different account)

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  12. Ste.. Such a nice post yaara. You've been a great support to me and I did tell you what I was gonna do and when I was gonna sort out things. Though things are still a blur am sure I'll find a way out soon. :) :)

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  13. nice one
    dosti ek atut rishta hain
    and ha remember about my post

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  14. well, dis is an awesum post my frnd.......i agree with wach nd every point of u coz i too believe dat "anything can be left for frndship, but for anything frndship can't be left,not even for love".
    Nd i appreciate ur case1 wen best frnd fall luv with us, coz most tyms ppl just leave deir best frnds if dey can't say "yes" to dem, but dats a big mistake dey do......coz dey loose a valuable thing of deir lyf.....
    great post

    cheers

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  15. oh ho seems like soll's the luv guru nowadays...or rather say frndship guru... :P
    neways
    a really nice post...luvd it a lot..

    take care..

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  16. Very interesting post. :) I have to say, when your best friend falls in love with you it's one of the most awkward and uncomfortable conversations to have. But if it's a one sided love (not the platonic kind) then it's a conversation that must be had to salvage the friendship.

    About your best friend falling for your gf/bf...that's not cool in my books. I'm sure it happens, it all starts with lust/attraction to either their personality or physical appearance or both, but my thing is that it should end right there at that level, especially since you know that person is off limits. But like you said, if you talk to your friend and if they respect you, then they'll back off. Though if for some reason there is a break up, it's usually rare that a best friend would date his best friend's ex. My motto, there's plenty of other fish in the sea. Why pick one that, if anything, will create discomfort/a strain in the friendship?

    Really enjoyed reading this post though. :) It's nice to come across lifestyle blogs like this one. I think I've babbled enough, heh.

    PS - Welcome to DS & in relation to this post, I had done a post on friendship (http://deliciouslysunsational.blogspot.com/2009/09/be-better-friend-3.html). You might wanna check that out. :)

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  17. kuch or kam nahi hai luv guru :P..

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  18. Nice observations and suggestions bro... :)

    Well compiled and written... But then, it still doesnt make handling such situations easier.. :)

    lol on Sister management post.. :P :P

    Come to me.. I'll give u some lessons.. :P

    Cheers..!!
    Arjun

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  19. Nice observations and suggestions bro... :)

    Well compiled and written... But then, it still doesnt make handling such situations easier.. :)

    lol on Sister management post.. :P :P

    Come to me.. I'll give u some lessons.. :P

    Cheers..!!
    Arjun

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  20. hey..real nice post there.Intresting read.More often than not we come across such bizzare/wierd/confusing situtaions as mentioned above!! But ur post quite made me feel..i aint the only one going thru such stuff!!

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  21. Hello Solitary Writer,

    I like this last post of yours...

    ...love is really a many splendored thing, i once told Lena...

    best friends falling in love? it happens every time and friendship is one good foundation for a higher level of relationship, i tell you...

    nice one...keep on writing, that's already part of our life...

    :)

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  22. Hey, you have a tag or two over at MM, check 'em out, and do them if you want. :)

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  23. monica

    yes last point is real...nd many ppl can associate themself with the last one ...

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  24. deepika
    i knw frndship wd suffer in case of first 1

    bt loving a best frnd is something which nt happens quite often...kuch kuch hota hai types hehe

    nd yeah do buzz me when u plan to write one :)

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  25. arun

    solli is a relationship guru much before he strted blogging helping nd solving frnds love problems h hehe

    rightly said bro...2nd point wd definitely ruin frndship for sre...dnt even dare to try it bro :P

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  26. thnk u Leo

    comin frm u makes me more happy

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  27. thank u riya

    m glad that u see me as a magician hehe

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  28. paramveer

    m glad tu apni dost ki gf ko babhi maanta hai...dusre aise nahi maante hai....yeh kyunki aap bohot achhe insaan ho isliye hehee

    dhanyavad

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  29. shweta

    hey babes kaisi ho...nd hws studies goin..m glad that u liked the post...m amused ..:D

    nd sister M P is postponed fr some reason ...will buzz u when i m done wit it

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  30. rightly said vidisha

    when both meet thre is gr8 deal of complications making like a big mess

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  31. rosh

    i knw 1st 2 points r useless fr u ..bt who knws at some later stage of life u wd knw its worth hehe

    hmm so dont hurt ur best frnd ok ...scold her if she hurts u :P ;)

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  32. evelyn

    u r strong nd i knw u will come out with the right decision.... i am glad that u liked this post ...:p focussing on career lol.. :P

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  33. chirag i will do it yaar. ..tu tension mat le.. i am just nt getting anything to write...these days i am reposting stuffs frm wl which i wrote few months ago ...samjaaa

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  34. ASPIRANT
    frndship is a gift nd we cant afford to lose it..there may be tiffs ,fights , quarrels nd so on bt frnds r frnds

    thanks a lot fr tht brother:)

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  35. thanks a lot shrey

    Solli wd always be a humour prince nd nt any love guru

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  36. thnks a lot archana

    nd welcome here....yes talking abt the 2nd point..i knw its nt cool...bt its true..i have many such frnds..cant help...true face of life... :D

    will visit ur space soon ;)

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  37. arjun

    thanks daa
    nd yes i will come to u fr lessons hehe

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  38. madhu

    m glad that u liked this post of mine..thanks :)

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  39. thanks a lot amity me

    those were real words fr sure...frndship is foundation fr the next stage of frndship ...so true :)

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  40. thanks a lot people fr ur responses ....love u all

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