Wednesday, March 14, 2012

If Men were from Venus!





Different Psychologists across the world have been trying hard  to reveal the key to human behaviour. What is that particular 'entity' which makes people react to different situations differently? It's obvious that a rational mind would see things differently when they are confronted with some unavoidable circumstances or situations. Hence, I call the human behaviour to be an enigma. I rate it as one of the biggest mystery and scientists have been researching hard to uncover this. Due to recent improvements and advancements in technology and different modern techniques, many behavioural scientists have been trying hard to discover the truth behind human behaviour. What is that makes women and men react to different situations differently? Strangely we cannot blame the gray cells. Not everyone has the same intelligence quotient. I am talking about real time scenarios. How difficult is it to understand women? The greatest mystery in this universe is how to understand women. It is not a hypothetical question. It does makes sense. I have been personally touched by this topic. A group of Behavioural scientists in Madrid conducted experiments and studied behaviour pattern of certain group of men and women. They simulated an environment where men could experience what it is likely to be a woman by stepping into a virtual body in their experiments. It really took them one step closer and they made certain researches. It got the men to understand or feel the woman as per their current mindset and it produced different emotions related to the subject. I found this experiment quite amusing and I believe that to understand woman one should try to step into their shoes. Have we ever wondered why there are differences in an argument between men and women? Why are those conflicts? What is that which makes them argue for pretty issues? Obviously there is a lag or a gap and understanding alone helps in bridging the gap. I admit that women are beautiful daughters of the great Almighty and we as human should learn to respect them. There are certain times where we just give up and go mad behind those innocent souls. We need to decrypt the mystery. Why? Why is the question which bothers me. There are indifferences because Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus. We can't really change this? Arguments are part and parcel of life. The greatest mystery that stands still are why woman behave the way they do? Ever thought of that. If no, I request you to think about it.

I would want to see things from a woman's point of view. I want to perceive things from her side. By doing this, I would get an insight towards female behaviour when subjected to different circumstances. I would love to know what’s running on her mind. Whenever there is a tiff between a man and a woman, we just succumb to the situation leaving no mercy on her. That’s why she is labelled as the weaker sex. We have made her weak just because we can't accept her behaviour at times. We could label it as we can't understand her well. If I would step into her shoes then I could very well know what made her behave like that or say that particular thing. This could help in issue resolving. We just know her as a cribber, whimper, whiner or a cry baby. But do we really know what makes her cry. Its just because her inability to react to men because men are stern. He can never accept failure. Because he was made like that. That’s why it is said that men never cry. Its the feeble sex which always have to be the sufferer. Some say they over exhibit their emotions at time. Ever been in a relationship? If yes then you would get to know a woman closer. Especially why she is demanding and possessive. She considers her man to be her everything and he is the one whom she can rely on. Its this man who supports her during her lifetime. Mutual understanding is essential for a perfect happy relation. So when confronted with a situation, women behaves on her own way. This way may be positive or negative. Positive one gladdens us and the negative one hurts us. So to know her better, I should be her. By being her I would know her better. I would understand her better and what she wants in her true sense. So if I were her, I would know her every action and I could also reason her reaction. As men we don't really know what women go through. There are many things which men can never be. Only women are the ones who know those things. Consider a mother. It is a feeling apart. A mother knows you 9 months more than anyone in this world.A man can never feel  what it means to be a mother.Have you ever wondered what makes a women cry and why they cry?

A woman weaves in lots of beautiful dreams during her childhood days. She imagines herself as a Princess and thinks about her Prince charming who will provide her with the love of her life. She gets matured and soon starts understanding things. She understands the true 'way of life'.  She realizes that she has to make lots of compromises in life in form of responsibilities, relations and love. The worst thing is that because of those sacrifices and compromises she is labelled as weak and easy. She does it because she can't afford to lose the special people of her life and she has to live up to their expectations as daughter, wife and mother. Never take her for granted because she loves you for who you are, sacrifices her life for her children’s and still loves you the same. She adds beautiful colors in the life of a man, but men don't seem to understand her .She suppresses her feelings and sorrows only for our happiness. She prefers to be silent only because men can’t understand her. We laugh over when it comes to understanding women. First try to know that if women can understand men so well, then why we can’t men at least try to understand them. Why should they always expect a woman to do that? For understanding all these we need to step into her shoes. And that is what I would love to do. At this point of time, I want to change the attitude towards women. They are considered weak, but I want to prove you all wrong that she is weak. She is the strongest creature on Earth. God bestowed upon her the seeds of wisdom, knowledge and of course the ability to understand men. This would connect the disconnect between men and women in term of understanding and bridge the barrier between them. The only option available is to understand each other, empathize with each other and step into her shoes. This would make me stronger in understanding them and in this process my relationship with a woman would bond stronger if I understand her well. Most of the relationships today do not survive because there is a constant mismatch of expectations. We cannot live up to each others expectation. If our frequencies do not match, then there would be lots of problems in life in form of tensions and break ups.So its necessary to understand her. I would like to change the perception towards woman, change the myth that she is weak.For I believe that women are strong. I wish if men were from Venus.



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27 comments:

  1. Men and women are made such by God that they oppose and attract. But thats entirely different from being contradictory and dominating. I like the thought behind this post although change desired is not gender specific in today's era, it is from each one of us irrespective of our gender.
    And i loved the point that 'men can never know what it means to be a mother' - thats when a woman is the strongest.
    good luck :)

    sarah

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  2. A woman is much stronger than a man...

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  3. For some strange reasons,I could see myself in this post!

    :)

    Best of Luck! :)

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  4. Vry few men think ths way...keep up d gud wrk :)

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  5. Nicely written but some bits are repetitive--Just an advice!

    Well the point u hav put fwd is note worthy but to understand a man also u gotta think like man :) Its the same to understand a woman too! But as its always said spclly if u r in a relation its always good to love her back if u fail to understand !

    Good lck for contest!

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  6. Wow! I think I've found one guy here on blogosphere who is not only a good writer but also courageous enough to talk about understanding women! Women are difficult and yes they were designed to be complicated and to lead a life of pain but ever so beautifully smiling! Women are vulnerable but all they crave is love. And you got that right Solitary Writer,more men like you and women like me (;)!!) should make this a better planet!! :)

    All the best for the contest! :)New to your blog.Going to explore around!!:)

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  7. awesome and terrific writer you are....
    speechless :)
    when we love someone very true, we don't see the gender.. UNDERSTANDING is the key factor which we lack :(
    good luck for contest :)

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  8. :) :) :)
    Women are stronger than men.. definitely.. they do cry.. they do shed tears.. but they get rid of the sorrow there and then and move on really fast..Men, on the other hand, pretend to be strong, while they're weaker inside..
    whatever, both men and women need each other, they are incomplete without each other and that's a fact!
    Cheers !

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  9. Interesting idea, TSW.. if men were from Venus, well... :)

    I always like the argument that neither of the genders r better than the other - I believe that both genders simply complete each other n that neither of the genders can live without the other.. the yin has to have its yang and vice versa, dont u think? :)

    Nice n very interesting thought, TSW.. :)

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  10. :-) Not too bad...John Grey huh??????:-) John Grey did make a very phenomenal contribution of understanding male and female psychologies in his book,Men Are From Mars,Women are from VEnus....your blog reminded me of him more than once...:-) Good jaaab!!!

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  11. You are tagged :)
    http://myfriendshipsimran.blogspot.in/2012/03/awards-honor-and-tag.html

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  12. i am glad that you see yourself in this post WTAW

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  13. Afshan
    thats right thats how a relationship can turn healthy

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  14. offcourse understanding is the only factor which we lack Karthik ..thanks da

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  15. you said it all sonia :) they both compliment each other

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  16. i am yet to read John Grey ...but these were the thoughts from my mind so had to write it somewhere and this contest was the best oppotunity ..thanks Rahul

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  17. Thanks for the awards and tags Sim..

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  18. thanks a lot everyone for the wonderful feedback and luck :)

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  19. I have seen how strong the women in my life are and so I agree with you without doubt.

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  20. nice blog, I always felt there is no one is better than any one, we are all created to help us live and survive in this world and suddenly there is an argument about who is strong and that creates the trouble. I like to think that Women are made weak physically to be dependent on men and men are made emotionally weak to depend on women. So, these two creatures joined together and created love to be together. Thus, those who think they are strong must be single.:)

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  21. People are meant to be interdependent but somehow this has changed course in time and women are considered dependent. Blogs like this will be an eye opener ..

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  22. Yes we are strong entities. I really don't want men to come from venus. I love to see women in front of the mirror not men and moreover men with mood swings... def.ly no. We need goofy entities around...our martians( men) are an expert at that... whatsay ste?

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