Tuesday, July 16, 2013

I saw, I learnt. I see, I learn again...

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Ab Ovo everyone says that life is a teacher. It’s true, we learn from different people, situations and circumstances which teach us great lessons. These are the lessons which we carry forward with us. Some negative and positive incidents that happen in our life or people around us inspire us in one or the other way. Every day we have a new experience to share with others. There are many things that has happened in my life that has taught me great valuable lessons. I label them as the lessons of life. I see things around me and learn from them. I saw things that happened around me and learned from them. Today I am going to share few incidents that happened in my life which changed my life upside down.


Last Monday like usual I was travelling from Mumbai to Pune. I quickly rushed inside the train and sat on my seat. I hate travelling on Monday's and that too on a rainy day everyone can agree with me. It was raining heavily outside and I was busy reading the Novel that I carried with me. As I was reading, my glance shifted towards a little girl of around 3. She was shabbily dressed in rags. There was a dapper woman - around 30 years sporting a modern look sitting next to me. She was wearing Ray Ban Sun glasses. She had an iPhone 5 on her hand. The head phone was plugged into her ears. The little girl was dancing and jumping on the passage between the seats. She squeezed her body inside a circular ring and tried to come out of it. Very few people got entertained by her acts. The little girl came towards me to ask for some alms. I never paid heed to her and got back to my business of reading the novel. The rich woman seated next to me removed a 100 RS note from her purse and handed to the girl. I was awestruck by the aberrant act of the posh lady. I contemplated for a while pondering over something that happened in front of me. I saw the little girl and she was full of smiles. The rich lady removed the headphones from her ears and went on to kiss and hug the little girl.

"Beta, aisa kyun karti ho...yeh lag jayega tumhe?" The woman embraced the little shabby kid. She kissed her again.

Her behaviour left me agape. She finally bid her good bye. But before leaving she handed another 50 RS to the little kid. The girl’s day was already made. I gave a 10 RS note to the kid. This train was her new abode. I used to see her everyday but I was least bothered about her.

The woman alighted from the train at Karjat station. People inside the train  were talking about her. I was astonished by her deeds of kindness. Very often we come across people who never care about others. Such selfish beings run behind materialistic things that eventually make they fret about themselves. They have no time to look at others. We ignore these little street and slum kids. It sometimes makes me wonder if humanity still exists in this world. After meeting that rich woman, I realized that the world is still left with good people.
I saw the rich woman, and learnt that however rich you may be or may belong to an affluent family, take some time for other needy people. She taught me a great lesson to treat everyone with equality wheter they may be rich or poor. Since that day onwards I donate 1 Re to all the little kids whom I encounter in the train and railway station. The world might mock you but it’s up to you - who you are! Such act of kindness will be appreciated by many but at the end of the day all you take with you is the happiness and their blessings.

Incident #2

Anger is the root cause of all problems. Anger is essential but sometimes too much rage can destroy relations. Relationship is like a string or a thread to be precise. It will break if you don't care or give them importance. Time immemorial, people care only for their loved ones. They form an integral part of their life. I met a stranger one day; fell in love with her and our friendship transcended to love. At that time, I realized that her love was intense and beyond boundaries. She loved me more. I could never reciprocate even 10% of how much she loved me. Lately, I realized that I had been ignoring her feelings for me. I loved her more than any lover could. I was busy with my office stuffs but even then I couldn't find time for my loved one. She was important to me. May be I had taken her for granted. During one such discussion, she pestered me time and again with questions which irked me and in reply I burst out at her. My anger had reached the zenith. She was upset with me and promised never to talk to me again. I was upset with my temper issues and more than that - her loss. I lost her to my anger. It was then I learnt that anger can be hazardous. It can ruin relationship and hurt people. Since then I have been advising people and have been providing them with anger management tips. Quite an Irony this! But it’s the truth. The Angry young man in me vanished away when my bond with her broke forever. I saw that anger was causing too much troubles for me for I couldn’t get my girlfriend back, I learnt that hence forth I would not get vexed at my loved ones.

Incident #3

Once while crossing the road, I slipped in between the road. JM Road is one of the busiest roads in Pune. The road is flooded with vehicles even during the noon hours. That day it was raining heavily. I was crossing the road to reach the other side. While crossing, I slipped and fell down. I was one of the reasons for a heavy traffic. People stopped, looked and went back. No one came to offer me help. A bus conductor helped me. It was a crowded bus. Luckily it was the bus which I was supposed to board. He helped me to climb the bus and dropped me till the bus stop where I had to alight. I could have met with a dangerous accident that day, could have even lost my life. The bus official came as an angel and helped me. He asked me to consult a doctor. Such good Samaritans are rare to find but they do exist.
I learned that however busy one may be but one should take out some time and help people in distress or troubles. Since, then I have been assisting people like helping old people to cross the road, dropping them till home and so on. Little moments of bliss!

Incident #4

Lies hurt! Lies affect bond directly or indirectly. When someone has immense trust on you, why would you lie and break their trust. It takes lots of time to build trust on someone. We should avoid taking people for granted. I recently visited Malshej Ghat. It was a trip to remember. We all had fun under the dark clouds. I got drenched under the waterfalls. My phone got drenched too. The phone stopped functioning and as a result I couldn't contact my family. Luckily one of my close friends had my sister’s number. I asked her to contact my younger sister and tell her that I was fine. Later that day I failed to know that there was someone who was desperately trying to contact me. She was a woman whom I know since last 2 years and I am in constant touch with her through phone and text messages. She got worried as I never responded to any of her messages that day. She pinged me on Facebook but I failed to check the messages. Later that night I even didn't bothered to inform her that I was safe. She was into tears when I called her the other day. I had logged into Facebook that night and saw her message but I never replied her. Sooner, I logged out and slept. The next day I woke up to her text message.

"Good! You never informed me, nor could you reply my fb message although you were online. I realize my importance in your life. Good bye!" She had texted me. I lied to her citing some stupid reason about my absence; I even convinced her. She urged me several times not to lie but that day I lied to her again. When she came to know about my lie, she bid adieu to me forever. Like Anger, even lies break relationship.

It was then I realized that one should stop taking people for granted. I learned that I would stop lying to my loved ones and since then I spoke only truth. May sound kiddish but that’s the truth!

These 4 incidents are few of those incidents which helped me to introspect on how and what am I doing in life for myself and others  and how I could change myself!

Aforementioned, life is a good teacher. If you accept it as a teacher then I am sure you would excel. Life is all about cherishing the good times and forgetting the bad memories. Everything that happens in our life has some lessons associated with it. We all just need to accept it and make a bulk out of it. I saw, I learnt. I see, I learn again…. And it continues!

You just need to learn from things around  you and do it right! Happy learning my lovelies!

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  1. They are interesting incidents...I had read about the contest but still havent written. Your post inspired me to do that :)

  2. really these incidents inspired me............. hope this effect lasts on me for long :)

  3. Great lessons learnt! Very well written post!!

  4. Interesting Incidences....and beautifully penned....good lessons learnt..:)

  5. Liked these stories. And they are eye openers too.

    P.S. Found your space through Blogadda :)

  6. so nicely you have depicted the lessons situations presented and you grabbed your share of learning .. of all I can tell you avoiding lies is the best policy to stay content and about anger .. yes yes yes .. I have been a hot headed guy and i lost almost all .. inviting troubles unnecessary .. now that I am a tough guy to agitate .. I know .. real strength is in not getting provoked .. !!
    Loved the post !

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  8. Good one stephen...lage raho....


  9. ..i had heard that God dwells among the poor..but that rich lady proved me wrong..as for lies and anger..they are like termites..they slowly eat up a relationship..and by the time you realize what went wrong..its already finished..a good post bro..beautifully weaved..keep writing.. :)