Monday, July 31, 2017

The Little Bundle of Joy!

Raksha Bandhan or Rakhi is one of the most widely celebrated festivals in India that reflects the love shared by a brother and his sister.  I always wanted a sister and the almighty lord heard all my prayers and blessed my family with a little princess who entered this world with a smile. If I had super powers I would have captured those innocent little smile and the twinkling eyes forever and arrested them in my memories. Such is the love that I have for my sister. Being a protective brother, my sister means a lot, in fact, she is my world, my bundle of joy!
There are many things happening around - many good and many bad but life planned to twist our world and make it complicated. I am not here to say the complicated bit but to share the happy part of our amazing life! 


QUESTION 1: WHAT WAS THE MOST MEMORABLE FIGHT YOU’VE EVER HAD WITH YOUR SIBLING?

 I was 7 years old and my baby sister was 1.5 years old then! I was fond of chocolates and sweets since my good old young days. Our parents were working and hence our Massi raised us. During the early 1990's we used to get a sweet item whose name I don't remember.  It was basically a tube of flavoured ice rolled in a plastic tube like substance.  Many would call that as Pepsi and many called it by various names. I used to gulp over 5 of them at a given time. Such was my crazy love for sweet items. 
It was one of those days when I was getting ready for school. I spotted my cute innocent sister gulping the plastic tube of flavoured ice with complete alacrity. I held her in my hand and quickly grabbed the ice cubes she was eating and gulped it.  She became furious and she did something that I could not forget for the days to come. She bit me on my arm and left an imprint of her tiny little teeth and dug too deep into my muscles. That pain was excruciating and being a baby no one could scold her as at that tender age no baby would understand right and wrong. I had to quickly rush to a doctor and get an injection and bandage. Twenty-Two years passed and  I still have those scars on my arm that reminds me of that incident.  I miss those days and sometimes wish we time travelled to that period. Life was sweet and beautiful then with no fear of future.  Life was festooned with awesomeness and happiness.  

QUESTION 2: WHAT IS THE MOST MEMORABLE GIFT YOU’VE EVER RECEIVED FROM YOUR SIBLING OR GIVEN TO YOUR SIBLING?

In this materialistic world where people crave for happiness and love, I got the best gift send by God in the form of a princess.  No material object or gift would measure the amount of love that I hold for my sibling. She is precious than a diamond to be. Not even the most expensive item in this world would ever come close to the love that we both share. Honestly, I have never bought anything precious for my sister. I have gifted her gold items, mobile phones and accessories but more than that God has given me the greatest gift in my life and that's her.  When momma placed her on my lap for the first time, I had the greatest responsibility. It was then I promised myself that I would take care of her and will be there for her during the happy and the worst times. I would be a protective, loving and a caring brother.  I just have one wish to god that he listens to all her wishes and prayers and make all her dreams come true. May he translate all her wishes and dreams into reality and listen to her prayers. I pray to the almighty Lord that he grants her with good health and happiness. 

This year I am miles away from home and I can't express in words how much I miss my family and my adorable sister.  I love you mum, dad and Anu and I miss you three the most. I wish I was around you but I'll be home soon. There isn't a single moment where I have not remembered you! 
Thank you, Lord, for giving me an amazing family. Love you Appa, Amma and Anu! 

Hope to blog soon!

#IGPSiblingRivalry


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Wednesday, April 06, 2011

For her...

She is a part of one's life and she serves different roles in an individuals life. She is somebody’s daughter,mother,sister,wife and so on. She has many different roles to play in her life. She easily  fulfills all the roles that she is put into. As a mother she takes care of her kids.As a sister ,she guides her siblings and parents in the household work. As a wife ,she performs daily household chores. As a teacher ,she imbues knowledge into her student. Life is a playground for her and she assumes the role of different actress in this movie of life.
 

This post ,I dedicate to the females out here. This goes to the moms,sisters,teachers,girlfriends,female colleagues  and every female out here in blog world. A woman has an important role in a men’s life. She nurtures him since the first minute of his life. She cares for him in form of being a good guardian and monitors him.A mother takes 20 years to make a men out of her boy and it takes just 20 minutes for another woman to make a fool out of him. Such is the impact of life in modern era. It takes  long time to make name and gem of a character but it hardly takes a minute to ruin the good work and the  appreciations. Mother is like the nucleus in an atom. She is like the sun which provides us with light and a source of energy. Maa,as we may call her is someone who is our support structure. For ages I have drenched my pillows with tears missing my mother. I wish she sat next to me and gave me some courageous words. Never mess with a your mother  ,she watches you and knows each minute details about you. This post comes as a dedication to  Woman’s day last month. Sister is like your spine. You never know her worth until she moves away to her husband’s place. That is the day when  you emotionally feel her absence. She is naughty at  times and fights with you everyday and night and makes you know that you have someone who constantly remembers you.
 
Sister makes  you feel that you are not alone in this world and she is always there for you to encourage and motivate you in your hardtimes. Woman have this important role in every men’s life. She should be respected and honored in every aspect of life. Look at her with pride and treat them equally.
Honour every woman you meet in your life. You might not know the worth of each one of them. Never be harsh to your wife. Support her in the good deeds.Teach manners and great values to your daughters. Respect and educate them. Throughout my life I have come across many such females and I have many female rolemodels. I am not attached to my Momma a lot but I can say that she is the best mother one would ever get. I won't say that my sister is the prettiest girl on Earth ,but she is an angel to us. There are little things in life that matters the most.These are the things which  differentiates us. Finally before   winding up ,I dedicate these wonderful lines for my very good friend whom I admire. For some silly cute Idiot friend of mine  who is very kind and yeah she is a woman too.  :)

"Little things you do for me and nobody else makes me feel Good..that's why  I like to sit next to you and share  my mad stories which I know that are not true"

PPS: I'm not promoting Vodafone :P but i do use a Vodafone though

This goes to all females out here.... \m/

Friday, October 09, 2009

167.Sister Management Lessons!!!

I am back ,but not with a bang.Yesterday my Captain Kasabian girl came back to blog world and I am happy to see her .Well we have seen a best friend falling for a best friend,ways to be happy,Importance of love in family and Anger management in my previous few posts.Now its time for some different topic. Ahem!! So what does this title suggests you.Yes! Another management class,but this time not for Angry souls ,but for brothers who mess with their sisters. It applies to Solitary Writer as well.I would like to wish Shweta as its her birthday .So , my dear friends lets sing a birthday song for our little friend Shweta aka Tweety aka I,Me,Myself. So are you still confused and thinking about this post.No more delays!.Lets start with the discussion.Most Indian families treat their son's as their pride and their daughters as their assets.This is true and I am at times proud of my nations culture and tradition.
Who is a sister?. My Nokia N70 dictionary defines a sister as the female person who has the same parent as that of the other.Yes this is 100% correct.A sister is someone who supports,encourages,motivates,annoys her younger and older siblings.She even fights with them and more over she cares and loves them.Trust me it is one of the most pure relationship of a brother and a sister.India is the only country which follows the culture of Rakhshabandhan.The name itself is composed of two terms.'Raksha' means protection and 'Bandhan' means relationship.Sisters tie a holy sacred thread on their brothers wrist indicating that their brother would take care of them and protect them throughout their life. This is the magic of sibling relationship.I somehow feel strange about the existence of Sibling rivalries in certain family .For instance me and my sister do fight unlike other siblings but we are amongst best friends.That can't be considered as fights .I will write few lessons for you .It is the sister management lessons.Lets start with the lessons.

Lesson 1 : Always Respect your sister.

Whether it may be your elder sister or your younger sister ,a sister is a woman.One should always respect her not just she is your sister but she is a girl/woman.A person who cannot respect his sister can never respect any other woman in this world.


Lesson 2:Sibling Rivalries & tiffs

Since childhood we are used to fighting with our closed ones.At times we end up hurting each other and irritating them .This is mostly observed in a brother sister relationship.We have quarrelled and fought over petty issues.Sometimes it is fun ,but sometimes it is not.Sometimes we fight and sometimes we protect and support.This is nothing but some memorable part of growing up.I remember my sister pushing me into a gutter when she was 7. There are certain slang's and abusive words related to sisters.Make sure and take care that we should avoid such harmful words.Some times a brother should not raise his hand on her.We are not here to show our strenght on our sister.This will exhibit our weaker side.

Lesson 3:Possession.

To be honest all brothers are possessive by nature.They do care for their sisters.Sisters do love the sense of security and protection a brother gives to them.But this should also offer some trust factor.Sometimes this may even lead to unwanted suspicion breaking the beautiful bond.In case of any confusions or doubts make sure you handle it properly and clarify it before you make any allegations or interrogations.

Lesson 4:Manifesting Double Standards

Do not manifest double standards.Some times brothers may have girlfriends or may be any female friends or whatever.They completely adore and respect those women.But if their sisters are into a relationship or associate with guys then it is a sin.*There are exceptions* Why can't a sister get into relationship with some guy? If it is morally a sin or if it is wrong then we should know that the girl whom we brothers love is someones sister . So no point in having such bias.

Lesson 5: Realizing responsibility
A girl see's a fatherly figure in her brother.She seeks guidance,support and help from her brother.If we fail to provide this ,then what kind of brothers are we.Also apart from the fun and other things we should realize our responsibility towards our sister.Do it and see that the amount of love and respect for you doubles.

Lesson 6: Developing trust.

Become each others secret holders and closed confidants.Why can't brothers and sisters be best of friends? The 'why' factor comes because of your childhood habit of blackmailing and letting out secrets.Develop a bond such that there is transparency and where you can share all things with your siblings.Sisters are sometimes trustworthy and can keep secrets.Although there are some exceptions.

Lesson 7:Communicating the right way.

You may be out the entire day.You have time to sit online and chat for hours with others.Can't you spare 15 minutes a day for your sister.?Sit down and ask her if she is OK. Help her in her assignment work.Teach her things ,clear her study related doubts and discuss her future.Ask her if she has any problems and how can it be solved.
Spend time with her by sharing your life experiences.Good communication at the right time can do wonders.

Lesson 8:Her importance
I know a sister is very important to any brother in this world.Why can't you show it? She won't sit on your head.Tell her how special she is to you and your family.Convey it to her once in while and seek her opinion in daily day to day activities.It may be selecting a shirt,giving advises etc.Involve her in your life in areas where it is not about your privacy.Stop giving her a girlie tag by asking her not to interfere in your work.

Lesson 9:Your role.

Its easy to dominate ,its easier to be bossy and exercise your authority as an elder brother.Is it difficult to get down to your sisters level? Can't you be her friend and understand her.If you can comfort your girlfriend then why not to your sister.They why don't you do it.Is it just because she is your family member.Don't take her for granted.Respect her opinions and value her.


Lesson 10: Realize her Worth.


Imagine a day without your sister and you would start complaining.May be that 1 or 2 days you would enjoy the so called peace but I bet after that you would miss her chatters,fights, and her company.It is because the relationship between a brother and a sister is special and exceptionally beautiful.
Believe me ,the day your sister gets married the brother is the one who cries the most.So if you love her that much then show it in your mannerism.If we talk of management then it depends on how you handle your sister on the right way. Handle her with care and love.

I hope this post was informative and after reading this you realize the worth and importance of your sister.I would like to thank my best friend for her support and her inputs.I will be back with some interesting topics.